Wedding planning advice for 2020 couples
Updated: May 22
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I think it’s fair to say that we can scrap this summer for large get-togethers. We were all waiting anxiously for Boris to announce the what’s and how's - not that what he said made much sense... The current guidance on GOV.COM says small wedding ceremonies will be able to go ahead from 1st June. If that is you, awesome but for most of you who booked a wedding for more than 50 guests, it's a kick in the teeth.
Most of you have hopefully managed to postpone your wedding date already (including vendors/suppliers), sent out ‘change of plan’ to your guests and are looking forward to your autumn/winter wedding, next year wedding or some even the year after that (as prime dates have got snapped up like hot cakes!).
Loads of you have booked a weekday or a Sunday, too eager to say I do, which I totally get and love.
And some of you eloped, gave Covid the middle finger, put your wedding clobber on, got hitched in the garden (with your pals and family waching on zoom), eat cake, and got drunk on bubbly (or corona beer). Massive congrats! We can plan a proper knees up when this blows over.
Let’s talk about how to postpone your wedding if you haven’t done so already.
Start talking with your venue, church, registrar, celebrant straight away about changing the date.
Inform all your suppliers about the possible change of date and give them a new one so that they can check their availability. Most of the wedding suppliers that I know will bend over backwards to help out their clients so please don't worry. These are crazy times. Everything can be sorted out if there is good communication. You might need to be prepared to compromise on a few things to make the wedding happen, so be flexible. Your caterer might not be able to do your new date but could recommend an equally good one for you to book for example.
If your venue isn’t being responsive (perhaps your wedding isn’t happening for another 6 months for example), find out when is the earliest they can talk about plan B.
If your venue is being difficult and doesn’t want to postpone, have a look at your contract T&Cs about rescheduling. You will find out about cancellation fees etc.
If your venue isn’t playing ball at all, you should seriously think about dropping them. Think about if it's worth cutting your losses now and finding a new venue. I know this is a drastic action but it could be worth it in the long run.
If all the rest of your vendors/suppliers agree to a new date, is it really worth losing all of them over a venue? What if you stick to your date not wanting to lose your deposit and your wedding doesn’t go ahead? By that time, your suppliers might be booked up already. Also, if you cancel all your suppliers, you might be charged a cancellation fee by them. Find out what that might be, get a spreadsheet and start working out all the possibilities and you will soon see what looks more cost-effective. Make your decision based on that and act on it. In my opinion, it is better to know when and where your wedding is than to wait anxiously for an outcome you are not in control of.
Let all your friends and family know about the change of date, especially those traveling for the wedding.
Check your wedding insurance to find out if you can get any money back for cancellations incurred.
Good luck xx
Once you sorted all that out and are ready to get excited about your wedding again, explore what a different season can offer to make your day extra special.
Autumn is wonderful, especially in England where we enjoy our Indian summers. The flowers are one of my favourites in autumn as we go from fresh vibrant colours to dry arrangements with warm yellows, burnt oranges, and browns. These look breathtaking and so very cool. There is something dreamy about the pampas grass and the rest of the dry flowers and grasses both in bridal bouquets and venue decorations. And the best thing is, if you still want that injection of colour, dry flowers can be dyed and look amazing.
For bridal wear, all you need to do is get a cape or customised jean or leather jacket and you're sorted.
Talk to your photographer about the light changes and how that will influence the photos. A slight schedule change might need to be considered but twilight photos have something very special about them in my opinion.
If you booked an outdoor venue, make sure you order heaters or fire pits and good flooring (the tipi/marquee companies usually have those as extras), umbrellas, wellies, and blankets (all can be rented) for the guests. These are cool little touches your guests will swoon over.
Winter weddings are rad. Like autumn, wintertime has its own magical charms. ‘Tis where we can have really dramatic winter sky photos - nature's most powerful backdrop.
You can add a fabulous bridal cape or (faux) fur jacket/coat to your wedding dress or jumpsuit, and buy a new pair of shoes (one can never have too many shoes!). You can have dry flowers or simple but wonderful green foliage decorations and of course loads and loads of candles and twinkly fairy lights. Simply dreamy.
Let’s look forward to the new date. After all, it will give us more time to plan and make it even more epic.
Give me a bell if you're uncertain about how to handle the change of date and let me help you make your wedding as epic as it should be.
All you need is love!